If you are wondering why you become a lesbian, know that there are several theories about homosexuality.
For example, there are some scholars who support the thesis of genetics, according to which you are born with characteristics belonging to the other gender (ie sexual identity). Other scholars, however, have recently raised other theories, as in the case of the "gender fluid" model, according to which lesbians are not born but they become lesbians.
This is a completely new vision, which deserves to be deepened, along with other useful information on this rather thorny issue.
Between "gender fluid" and genetics
The gender fluid model, supported by leading psychologists such as Lisa Diamond (among other things, she herself a lesbian) argues that homosexuality emerges not as a matter of genetic traits, but according to the behaviors and the state of mind of a human being.
It is a theory that does not look at gender, and can be applied to both men and women. In other words, every person on the face of the earth is influenced by the events of his or her life: therefore, these events will affect his or her sexual identity, prompting him or her to change his or her orientation depending on how he or she feels.
Who now approaches the world of lesbian dating , therefore, should understand that there are no certainties about it, because nothing so far has been scientifically proven. Neither the gender fluid model, nor the thesis that explains homosexuality with genetics.
What is certain is that being lesbian or gay is nothing more than a human behavior, which is obviously characterized by attraction to a member of one's own gender. Meanwhile it is not anything "unnatural", as some scholars want to believe.
This is because it is possible to find homosexual behavior also in some animal species. And then because, in past eras such as Ancient Greece, homosexuality was a very normal behavior.
Why do people become lesbians?
Meanwhile for a sentimental issue, because lesbian love can strike at any time. There are many cases of heterosexual women suddenly struck by other women, who have chosen to live relationships with them. In this case, however, it is good to argue that you can have relationships between women even if you are not lesbian.
It is no coincidence that, unlike the gay world, for women the concept of love is much more nuanced and complex to fully understand.
According to some experts, lesbian love is experienced and discovered especially in adolescence. It is there that a woman tries these new sensations and then tries to understand if these are momentary things, or if there are women in her destiny. A second reason is purely related to the sexual component.
If you have read our article on how lesbians have sex , you already know that sex between women can become extremely pleasant. Much more than intercourse with a man, because completely different dynamics come into play than penetration (although this is still present).
Lesbians by reaction?
Again, we are talking about very hot topics, because it is not at all easy to share them fully, and because they might offend someone. In fact, there is a group of people who support the thesis of homosexuality by reaction, and those who instead argue that it is not so.
To give you a concrete example, one could become lesbian because of love disappointments with men. There are even those who say that female homosexuality, in some cases, could depend on the violence suffered by the father at an early age. Finally, some individuals think that many lesbians become such out of fashion, or to oppose the customs of modern society.
Conclusions
None of us has the keys to open the chest of truth, so we can not do more than make some assumptions.
Today we have seen some very popular, often at antipodes from each other. Unfortunately it will be very complex to understand why we become lesbians, but perhaps this is not the most important point of the speech.
Whatever the reason that pushed you in this direction, whether you know it or not, it does not matter: what matters is that you are happy with the partner that makes your heart beat faster, whether it be a man or a woman.
